When it comes to my kids, I think, like most moms, I'm a doer. I want to DO things. Things that seem unimportant to you mean the world to me.
I see other moms right now with their babies, big ones, small ones, fresh from the womb ones...I see them holding and snuggling their babies. I fight against being jealous, though I am. I give that up and remember how my life is so richly blessed. I take that to Jesus. Daily.
Right now my days consist of being in a hospital room with my husband and my now week old son. We bring our kindles (We read), our computers, I have a bag of craft things. We listen to music, I post things to Facebook, I text my friends. I Skype with my beautiful girl. Today, I paid a bill, planned our month in finances, organized a list of people who are willing to help watch our girl, called my mother in law, called my Mother, planned, wrote lists, and crafted a cute name tag for Deano's bed.
I had uninterrupted time in the quiet of the day.
There was no Ellie talking about bears, no her getting into something she shouldn't or climbing on a table. She wasn't pitching a fit, she wasn't whining or singing. She wasn't here to dance to the music Blair played for a short time.
There was no Deano waking up, demanding to be nursed, crying because he was wet, needing a diaper change. There was no Ellie trying to kiss Deano for the tenth time, no her trying to pick him up. He doesn't coo, he doesn't cry, he doesn't stir. He is still.
This room is still. This room is quiet save for the many machines that monitor and beep and keep my sons heart and lungs and kidneys working. There is a low hum in his room. Often this place is just so quiet.
I chafe at it. It gets under my skin. I talk to Blair about everything and nothing to fill the silence. I talk, but not too loud, afraid that if I do I might miss the slightest sound. I play music, worship songs encouraging me to draw deeper to Christ, but not too loudly, because this space feels as though there is something there, just on the brink, and if anything is too loud we will not hear it.
I want to hear my son cry. I want to hear him coo. I want to see his eyes. I want to snuggle him close. Hold him to me and whisper my love to him, my love and God's and Daddy's and Ellie's. I still do that, I talk to him all the time. I joke him about his "girlfriends" (nurses) and remind him that he will under no circumstances be a player. I told him about the day I found out I was pregnant, how I told Amanda through Facebook before I told anyone else. How scared I was.
How all I wanted, more than anything, was for him to have a heartbeat.
How I cried when I first heard his heart beat.
How scared I was when I found out it was his heart that had an issue...how I wondered, in the silence of the night, if at any time, his heart would just stop...
I tell him how wonderful it was to feel and see him move inside me. To watch him grow. To bring him here, though in my soul I wanted him to stay in me, safe.
Someone reminded me today, that there is healing in the quiet. In the stillness.
My son's chest is still open. If he were moving, there is so much that could go wrong. It is hard not to hear him cry, but oh, am I thankful that this has given him a chance to live.
There are things that God is teaching me that I didn't know I needed to learn. Like how to be still. How to appreciate the quiet. How to accept it and live in it. How NOT to fill the silence. How to enjoy it and love it. How to see the deafening beauty that is the quiet hum of a machine. To see beauty in his open chest and swollen body.
I am reminded, daily, that he could be gone by now. When I look up from my book or my craft or my lists or as I get off the phone and see his little head there...there is a feeling of love that overtakes me. Of remembrance that this surgery has given my son a chance at life here with me, with Blair, with his sister, and Grammy and Mimi, and Grandpa and Grumpy, and countless Aunts and Uncles, and cousins.
Today I was reminded that the quiet means he is healing.
I couldn't help but think of the times God has seemed quiet in my life.
Put those thoughts together.
Maybe those times we think God is quiet, He isn't.
Maybe He's just leaving room for us to heal.
Embrace a quiet night.
Let it Heal you.
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